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"Shabbat Shalom from Bangkok"

Don't stop

Here we are a few days after Chanukah.

It was so inspiring to watch the lights multiply every night.

From the first night of Chanuka when we kindled one solitary light, to the eighth night when we lit all eight lights of the Menorah.

The message was clear and powerful.

Don’t stop adding light. Every day one should try to add in light, good deeds and bring more holiness to the world.

Except that it seems to come to a screeching halt on day eight.

On day night we went from the previous night of eight, to zero candles.

It seems to go against the main lesson of Chanukah.

Chanuka got us into a habit and pattern of adding.

Yet, on ‘day 9 of Chanukah’ we don’t light nine candles.

There is no ninth day of Chanukah.

What happens with the ‘going up in holiness’ that we embraced and internalized on Chanukah?

The answer is simple.

The growing doesn’t stop after day eight.

G-d forbid.

It is just that by the eighth day of Chanuka we have learned the lesson that we need to continue to grow and add in all matters of positivity and holiness.

It is now so ingrained into our way of thinking that we don’t need to light additional physical lights to teach us that.

Eight days of Chanuka is enough to instill this message into us till Chanuka comes again next year and we are once again reminded, to never be satisfied with the good we have done.

Add, add and add even more.

Why is eight days enough to implant this message permanently into our consciousness?

Because seven are the days of the week. Eight is the beginning of the new cycle of the next week.

Ever since Hashem has created the world the seven-day cycle is a pattern that repeats itself every single week for the 5786 years that the world has been in existence.

Every Sunday is a repeat of the first day of creation. On the first day of creation Hashem created light. Every week we should start off our week with generating light. Same is with Monday and every day of the week through Friday.

It is a repetitive cycle.

We really feel this most strongly on Shabbat. Hashem rested on the seventh day of the first week of creation. Hashem instructed us at Sinai that we too must rest on the seventh day.

By giving us the mitzvah of Shabbat, G-d is empowering us to enter a space of rest, rejuvenation, spiritual sensitivity and heightened awareness of G-d.

The gift of Shabbat is otherworldly.

Try it.

Light your Shabbat candles before sundown after ‘unplugging’ your gadgets and watch the anxieties melt away.

Take a cup of kosher wine and recite the kiddush. Feel the aura and glow of G-dly rest fill your soul.

The seven days of the week are a repeat of the initial cycle of creation over again.

The adding of lights for eight days of Chanukah teaches us that on every single day of the week we need to find ways to add positivity and light. It is not a Sunday thing, or a Tuesday thing. Every single day of the week, every time there is a new day, it ought to bring new light to the world.

It is challenging to fully adopt the growth mindset.

It is tempting to achieve some level of success, and then try to find a comfortable ‘couch’ that you can sit on like a ‘potato’

The message of Chanukah empowers us to act exactly the opposite.

If you have achieved success in any aspect of your life, this means you now have more experience, more wherewithal, more wisdom and more maturity to do even more.

Let me ask you to do a little meditation.

Close your eyes, breathe deeply and ask yourself honestly.

‘Am I coming in to land’

or

‘Am I ‘getting ready to take off’.

Please take a moment to let this sink in.

Are you (subconsciously) shying away from growth, because you don’t want to expend energy and effort’?

Have you truthfully reached the full potential that you could reach’?

Click here for ‘the Rebbes relentless call never to rest’

The eighth night of Chanuka is the ‘above-world’ energy.

If seven is the cycle of creation – the days of the week, eight is the number of miracles. Of transcending creation.

(This explains the symbolism of the Brit Milah being on day eight from birth. It represents G-d’s infinity connecting with the covenant of Brit to the Jewish baby boy).

The Jewish world is not retreating. Thank G-d we are growing and expanding.

Our enemies took aim at Chanuka and murdered fifteen innocent souls including two rabbi colleagues of mine, at the Bondi Menorah lighting.

With a terror attack at the beginning of the first night of Chanuka in one of the earliest time zones in the world, the prognosis for having large public Menorah lightings and a joyous illuminated Chanuka around the world was grim.

It looked like our enemies had dealt us a blow that would knock us down G-d forbid.

Who would come to celebrate Chanuka publicly at venues around the world?

The reality is that Chanuka events were even more well attended this year.

Jews of all types defiantly and proudly stood tall and brave as they came to thousands of Chanuka events around the world.

I met Jews who told me ‘we don’t usually come to Chanuka, or light candles, but this year we feel compelled to renew our commitment to our Jewishness and to connect to G-d’.

The Midrash teaches that Jews are compared to an olive. When you squeeze an olive, you get oil. The pressures of the negative forces that antagonize the Jews, causes a pure ‘oil’ to emerge from within them. This translates into a deeper feeling and commitment to our true Jewish identity.

We pray to Hashem not to allow anyone to ‘squeeze us’.

The ideal way of getting us to grow is to create our own internal ‘squeeze’ by motivating ourselves to try even harder and to put forth more efforts – by our own choice. The Torah teaches that if we do this, we should be spared getting the ‘push’ from the outside.

Closer to home.

This week I have had the privilege of visiting our branches in Phuket and Ko Samui. In each of these locations, alongside the thousands of Jewish visitors who visit Chabad, enjoy the kosher food and the vibrant Shabbat celebrations, there is a growing permanent Jewish presence. To accommodate the local Jewish community, Chabad of Thailand is building Jewish kindergartens to provide Jewish education to toddler and children.

This is the best and only way to ensure Jewish continuity.

In Bangkok, the new flagship Synagogue – ‘The Heart of Jewish Thailand – is making headway. Please G-d soon the basement floor will be poured, and the building will start to rise.

The new community meat restaurant, JDeli – next door to JCafe - is wildly popular.  (Finally, a place where you can order good ole fashioned matza ball soup).

From so many individual Jews I hear of increased and intensified personal Torah study. So many Jews are upgrading and deepening their observance of Mitzvahs.

We all need to find ways to grow and increase.

Each of us in our own way, shining our own light, illuminating our individual surroundings and beyond,

It doesn’t have to be grandiose things.

The blessing is to be found in the small things that we do.

And especially in the consistency of doing the actions that bring light to the world – Torah and Mitzvahs.

Successful growing!

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Yosef Kantor

we will grow. 'Chanuka is Light over Darkness and Adding Light' – never ceasing to grow and add

Yesterday, we had a wonderful surprise when Devorah and her family paid us a visit. Devorah, had spent her teen years here with her family who had temporarily relocated here from Sydney Australia. After a few years they returned to Sydney but not before Devorah was married here in Bangkok at a chuppah that I officiated. The wedding reception that held at the Bet Elisheva Synagogue. She wanted to show her teen sons where their parents had gotten married.

It was such nachas to see this cycle of Jewish continuity, The couple who stood under the Chupa and entered the holy bond of marriage twenty some years ago are now the parents of three Jewish children who are proud of their heritage that will continue Am Yisrael into the next generation. They will please G-d establish their own Jewish families when the time comes. 

With their visit also came heartbreak.

It was from Devorah and her family that I got a deeper and closer look at what the tragic massacre in Australia meant to the Bondi Jewish community (where I grew up in my early childhood). 

Devorah told us that as a child growing up in Sydney this was THE main Chanuka party that her family would never miss attending. For decades this beautiful celebration of light and serenity has been a joyous event of Jewish identity and pride. 

She would have been at the party with her husband and children this year as well, if not for her family holiday to Thailand.

The rabbis Eli Schlanger and Yaakov Levitan who were killed were pillars of the community. Reuven Morrison who heroically fought back, was a leader who 'got things done' for the community. The other Jews who lost their lives in this horrendous terror attack were known intimately by many in the community. In one fell swoop the fiendish murderers struck at the heart and soul of the Bondi community.

As much as I had taken this to heart from the moment I heard the first reports, to hear firsthand from someone who is an integral part of that very community shook me even more than I was already shaken. 

Click here to read a detailed report of the tragedy and the heroism that was exhibited during those fateful and harrowing six minutes -that seemed like ages - of shooting.

At the same time the deepest resolve shines even more brightly in my heart and soul that we will not just continue, we will grow. Just as the lesson of Chanuka. 

The Rebbe repeatedly emphasized that the lesson of Chanuka is Light over Darkness and Adding Light – never ceasing to grow and add.

Every night of Chanuka we kindle an additional light.

The lesson is clear and unequivocal. 

Light has the power to dispel darkness.

Good must never stay stationary. 

It must grow in leaps and bounds. 

Nonstop. 

Yes, I know how to react.

In the face of darkness, pain and cruelty we must add in incredible and intensified acts of light, hope and kindness. 

Rabbi Eli Schlanger hyd shares a message of hope about how to react to anti-semitism. His message is MORE JOYOUS PRIDE FILLED JUDASIM.

But it reawakened the existential question.

Where do we, the Jewish People get our resilience and strength from?

The story of Chanuka as retold in the Talmud reads as follows:

The Gemara asks: What is Chanukkah, and why are lights kindled on Chanukkah? The Gemara answers:  When the Greeks entered the Sanctuary they defiled all the oils that were in the Sanctuary by touching them. And when the Hasmonean monarchy overcame them and emerged victorious over them, they searched and found only one cruse of oil that was placed with the seal of the High Priest, undisturbed by the Greeks. And there was sufficient oil there to light the candelabrum for only one day. A miracle occurred and they lit the candelabrum from it eight days.

This year I discovered an interpretation by the Rebbe that adreesses this very question of from where do we draw our strength.

The search that was carried out after the Hasmonean victory was not just for physical oil. 

It was a spiritual search as well. The Jewish people were searching and pondering. From where did the Maccabees derive their strength and determination to fight against all odds? From where did they draw their deep courage and conviction to enter into a totally uneven war. They were weaker, smaller and yet they valiantly fought against larger and stronger enemy forces. Miraculously they won. 

Where did that fiery determination to fight for Hashem notwithstanding the intensity of sacrifice required come from?

The search yielded the discovery of an untainted cruse of oil that was signed by the most holy of all Jews – the High Priest.

This refers in an allegoric way to the deepest quintessential spark of Jewish identity. 

This flask of oil is alive and well and active nowadays too. In a way perhaps it is even more highlighted during these days of challenge.

Where do we get the fortitude to march onward and upwards in our Jewish activism?

From where our brave soldiers in Israel derive their inner strength as they stand in defense of our people and country disregarding all danger and fear in total sacrifice.

Where did the hostages in the tunnels withstand attempts to convert them away from Judaism and to rebel against their people, and even to light Menorah in the tunnels of captivity?

From where did the Jew nation take strength and fortitude to rebuild Torah institutions, Synagogues and Jewish centers after the Holocaust?

From that inexhaustible untainted flask of oil in our soul.

We may not always feel it. But if you search, you will find that it is there.

The 'pintele yid' the untainted spark that doesn't let a Jews connection to G-d fade into oblivion. 

This spark is what fuels us during the darkest and most challenging times.

Many a Jew has been surprised at their own reactions and resilience and commitment to G-d and the Torah which exceeded their own expectations of themselves.

It is truly a G-dly phenomenon.

Years of oppression doesn't extinguish the spark,

Here is a story I was privileged to hear this morning about the holy martyr Boruch Ber (Boris) Tetleroyd who was gunned down attending the Chanuka event.

Boris was an emigree from the former Soviet Union. Years of communism had almost stamped out the most basic Jewish traditions from the Jews of the Soviet Union, including Brit Milah circumcision. 

But it hadn't extinguished that eternal spark of Jewish spirit in the Jewish soul. For this reason, after immigration, as a grown adult in the safety of Sydney, Boruch Ber had a Brit and continued in the unbroken chain of the Jewish tradition starting from Avraham our forefather. 

Rabbi Ulman, the senior rabbi of the Bet Din in Sydney and the director of Chabad of Bondi (father-in-law of the slain Rabbi Eli Schlanger hy'd who worked very closely with him) recalled a holy moment from the Brit more than a decade ago. 

As a senior rabbi, Rabbi Ulman had received a call for a halachic decision on a life and death issue. A thirteen-year-old boy Shneor Zalman had been critically injured in a car accident. The doctors were asking the family for permission to take him off the medical apparatus that was keeping him alive. Rabbi Ulman listened to all the details and gave his rabbinic decision that it was not permissible to stop the life saving attempts. The call had come as he was about to preside over the Brit of Boruch Ber. 

Rabbi Ulman explained to Boruch Ber that when there is a Brit, our sages tell us that the gates of Heaven are open and one can make special prayers and requests of the Almighty. He asked him to pray for the young boy who was on life support as he was undergoing his Brit procedure. 

The prayers were answered. Shneor Zalman recovered fully. He is a wonderful young man who is full of life and energy.

Rabbi Ulman who has been heartrendingly occupied in the task of officiating at all the tragic and heartrending funerals, shared this incredible double mitzvah that Boruch Ber had done, at Boruch Ber's funeral. 

The light is invincible. 

AM YISRAEL CHAI!

Our job?

To take that G-d given oil and 'run with it', grow it and nurture it.

We need to kindle that small flask of oil and constantly put forth efforts to light up our entire menorah, add more good deeds, deepen our study of Torah and doing of Mitzvahs.

The greatest defiant response to darkness is to spread the light exponentially. By inspiring someone else. Preferably many more than one. Those people will inspire other people. 

Let us create a wave of light that sweeps away the last vestiges of darkness forever.

May Mashiach come and we will be reunited will our loved ones in a world of everlasting peace and holiness.

Shabbat Shalom, 

Chodesh Tov

Chanukah Sameach

(Three Torahs are used tomorrow to read a portion for each of the above special and holy occasions).

Rabbi Yosef Kantor
PS. A fundraiser has been established to help the victims and families of the victims of the terror attack in Sydney. You can join at https://www.charidy.com/sydney.

'don't make waves?'

As a kid I grew up in Australia. 

I distinctly remember that ‘not sticking out’ was an accepted part of our Jewish upbringing in the Australia of the 1970’s.

It was very much consistent with the notion that if we ‘didn’t make waves’ we – the Jewish minority living in Australia – would be less conspicuous, fit in more, and protect ourselves from hatred and acts of anti-semitism. 

The parents of many of my friends were Holocaust survivors. They had survived the worst tragedies and inhumane cruelty at the hands of the Nazis and their willing cohorts from various countries in the region. They were looking to get as far away as possible.

Australia seemed to be the perfect place to migrate to.

Naturally, after the traumas of the war years, the older Jews insisted ‘don’t make too much noise or be too conspicuous’.

 Australia. 

In one word?

Laid back.  ‘She’ll be right mate’ was the popular refrain. Australia was thought of as being too far for all the big problems of the ‘big wide world’ to reach its shores.

Over the years that peacefulness started to dissipate. Especially during the past few years as public declarations of hatred of Jews started to become all too commonplace.

Tragically, whatever vestiges were left of the laid-back peaceful illusion was shattered last week.

Life cannot go on as usual.

There is a seismic change.

The Jews in Australia as standing out and speaking up. 

From the brokenness, from the pain, from the darkness, a powerful new light is emerging.

Rather than hunkering down and hiding, the Jewish community is galvanizing and leading a revolution of moral clarity. For the Jewish community and for the entire population. 

They are standing side by side, Jews of all backgrounds and types, proud and unapologetic of the special rituals of Judaism. They stand proudly in the public sphere calling attention to the rich identity of Judaism.

Chanuka is the time when we are instructed to stick out. Part of the Chanuka mitzvah is to publicize the miracle via lighting the menorah to be visible in the streets.

Fifty years ago, the Rebbe took the outwardness expressed by Chanuka and catapulted it to the highest level possible.

Click here for more about public menorahs.

Today there is not a city in the world in which you will not find public displays of Chanuka

My Friend, join the revolution of light and goodness. 

Not one of us can remain a bystander. 

Gone are the days when we can hide in the shadows.

Today we thrust and are visible in the most powerful light. 

We each have a responsibility and a purpose.

Every Jew is a walking ‘candle of G-d’. 

It is up to us to embrace our Judaism and be living examples of how a child of G-d ought to act. With purity, moral clarity, kindness and strength. 

After the attack on the first night, I thought to myself we need to do something on the last night of Chanuka that is ‘out of the box’.

The community in Sydney did just that. They thought ‘out of the box’ and gathered more than twenty thousand people to kindle the eight lights of Chanukah.

In the same space that bullets took innocent lives, tens of thousands of prayers and blessings and good resolutions filled the air. 

Hundreds of thousands more watched live from around the world.

Below is a link to the replay of the event.

Take a few moments to watch some of the powerful scenes as the light powers up dispels and transforms the darkness.

More importantly, make a good resolution. Take on yourself a mitzvah.

Light the eight candles tonight (it doesn’t have to be in an ‘official menorah’ you can just line up eight tea lights in a row and thus created your improvised menorah) and proclaim to yourself and to those who can see and hear you that:

LIGHT DISPELS DARKNESS.

Like in the times of the Maccabees, 

The holy will win over the unholy,

Even if they are outnumbered and outweaponed. 

Hashem is on our side, the side of good and holy.

WE WILL WIN EVEN IF IT REQUIRES MIRACLES!!!!

Happy Chanuka

WE WANT MASHIACH NOW

Rabbi Yosef Kantor



A Chanukah Message from Bangkok

By the Grace of G-d

First day of Chanukah, 5786 – December 15, 2025

Dear Friends,

As I was preparing to leave yesterday to the Chanukah party here in Bangkok, the reports of the horrible attack in Bondi Beach, Sydney Australia starting coming in.

I spent my early childhood living near Bondi Beach. The names of those murdered were familiar to me.

Dread seized me as I realized that I was about to go on stage to lead Chanukah festivities in a public setting.

The world seemed so dark and scary at that moment. The combination of my very personal childhood connection to the scene of the murderous attack combined with the public nature of our Chanukah event had me feeling fear and not feeling very hopeful.

A few short minutes later I realized that I had written a speech just a few hours earlier that addressed that very question.

Have you ever felt you were in a situation where all hope was lost?

What do you do?

My equilibrium returned, I knew exactly what needed to be done.

I had mapped it out in my prepared speech.

Chanukah must go on with more power and intensity than ever before.

I checked with our security team, they said we had the go ahead to proceed with the party. Security would be increased and we had the green light to continue with our plans.

I delivered the following speech in answer to the question that had, in the few hours since I wrote it, become very personal to me.

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Have you ever felt you were in a situation where all hope was lost?

In Israel more than two thousand one hundred years ago, as the Syrian Greek empire invaded Israel many of the Jews thought there was simply no hope.

The bad guys numbered more than them.

The army of the forces of evil had more powerful weapons.

The enemy were attacking us and trying to finish us off as the Jewish nation. They were bent on getting rid of all of the Jewish Torah values of morality and holiness.

The easy thing to do would be to give up and give in.

To lose our Jewish identity and assimilate into the Greek hedonistic culture.

The future of Am Yisrael, the independent Jewish People with its Torah based identity was at stake.

If the Greeks would have been victorious, we would not be here today G-d forbid.

When all seemed dark and it looked like there was no hope… a flash of light lit up the darkness.

A group of brave, committed and motivated Jews decided to fight the forces of evil and bring back the holiness and light.

Their group was named the Macabees as that spells out

Mi Kamocha Baeilim Hashem – HASHEM IS OUR STRENGTH and therefore we will WIN.

Although they were smaller in number and weaker in sheer military strength, The Maccabees won a stunning MIRACULOUS military victory

They knew precisely what they were ready to fight for,

TO DRIVE AWAY THE DARKNESS.

TO DO THAT THEY NEEDED TO LIGHT UP!

THE MENORAH.

Immediately they went to the Temple in Jerusalem to rededicate it and light the menorah which was done daily in the Bet Hamikdash.

There was one major problem, the enemy had made all the stock of oil in the temple IMPURE. Unusable in the HOLY Menorah.

Making new oil would take EIGHT DAYS.

A temple without the light of the menorah is unthinkable. The Menorah lights up the world!

What could be done?

Again, the Jewish people didn’t give up.

When the going gets tough, the tough get going!

They looked and searched and FOUND one jar of pure uncontaminated oil signed by the holiest person possible the Kohen Gadol – High Priest.

Great, said they, we can light the menorah… but next problem, it was only enough for one day.

They did not hesitate, they forged ahead and did what they could, they lit the menorah thinking it would only last for one day.

G-d made a miracle. The oil that was enough for one day lasted for EIGHT FULL DAYS till new oil could be found,

(In today’s equivalent, a smart phone with 1 day of battery life lasts for eight full days. Impossible. That is what a miracle is, when Hashem makes the impossible happen).

Dear Friends,

Let me ask you again, as we look at the struggles in Israel as we look at rising anti-semitism around the world, what does the story of Chanukah teach us?

Three things:

DON’T GIVE UP. Even when you are outnumbered, even when the bad guys who act immorally and cruelly seem to be winning, even when the darkness seems to be overpowering,

GET UP AND DO SOMETHING

FIGHT the DARKNESS. To our heroes in uniform, soldiers, police and those who literally put their lives on the line for G-d and His people, may you be blessed, protected

Hashem Yishmor Tzeitcha Uvoeacha meatah vead olam.

To all of us – universally, man, woman, old and young this is a calling of the highest degree.

ADD LIGHT TO THE WORLD,

Find a mitzvah that you can do.

Find someone else that you can help.

Even if it’s only one small action,

Chanukah teaches us that while your one action can only fix a small part of the issue, you do your bit and Hashem will do his.

The oil that is enough for one day can miraculously last for eight.

Look at the incredible turnaround:

The enemy darkened one Menorah in the Holy Temple thousands of years ago,

Today we have not just one menorah but millions of Menorahs being lit during Chanuka and adding light around the world.

When you listen to the candles of Chanuka you hear a loud and focused call to action:

That pure jar of oil is inside of us.

Recognize that each of us, you, I, him and her, has an invincible untouchable pure light inside of you.

It is waiting for you to light it up.

Think about the powerful glow of the Menorah against the backdrop of pitch-black darkness. In your mind, watch the light chase away the darkness and recognize that you have that power, through your good deeds, YOUR light will expel the darkness around you and grow with ever increasing light.

Chanukah reminds us not to give up but to do our part in kindling a light and watching it perform miracles in making the world a more moral place, and kinder place and a more peaceful place.

This is a timeless message as the forces of darkness are ever present:

The Menorah reminds us that Good is victorious over evil holiness over impurity freedom over oppression even when the situation looks impossible.

As the Maccabees back in those days declared their allegiance and recognition of Hashem against all odds.

As the Jews living under the Spanish inquisition lit menorahs in the underground cellars hiding from their enemies and yet defiantly declaring their commitment to Judaism,

As the Jews in concentration camps lit menorahs hiding from the evil eyes of the nazis, with their last ounce of strength, rising and towering way above their captors.

And as our brothers and sisters held hostages in the horrendous Gazan tunnels lit menorahs overcoming their despair and declaring their belief in G-d

We too, as free people, must commit to Hashem.

Tragically, our enemy is not only from invading armies, or despotic tyrannical governments, but from individual haters and antisemites whose voices and actions must be stamped out.

And it is also from internal pressures. Our inability to stand tall in the face of peer pressure and cynicism in the societies around us that makes us embarrassed and self-conscious of our Judaism.

We need to be like the Maccabees and stand tall, proud and kindle our menorahs,

Let us close our eyes and proclaim together

SHEMA YISRAEL….

And with our eyes closed, access the depth of your soul, that deepest spark of connection to Hashem, that pure oil and remember that there is nothing more dear to me than G-d and there is nothing more dear to G-d than each and every one of us.

Commit to at least one act of light, one mitvah as we cry out in unison:

SHEMA YISRAEL HASHEM ELOKENU…

Listen Yisrael, (Jew) Hashem is our G-d, Hashem is One.

We are now lighting the collective menorah of our community.

And then we each have a mission to go to our personal home and each of us will light our personal Menorah.

May the many millions of gentle flames of light set to be kindled this Chanukah illuminate the world’s remaining patches of darkness. May these lights bring with it the miracle of true peace, lasting peace, and the complete redemption, with the coming of Moshiach. Amen.

Rabbi Yosef C. Kantor
Founder and Executive Director, Chabad of Thailand

PS. You can watch a recording from the Chanukah party over here.

PPS. If you would like a menorah and candles, please respond to this email and we will be happy to help arrange for you to get.

success!

Do you want to be successful?

I am sure you will ask: ‘Successful in what field?’ 

To which I will respond: ‘Successful in anything you do!’

No doubt you will answer with a resounding YES!

This week’s Parsha Vayeshev spells out the way to be successful.

G-d was with Joseph, and he became a successful man

For ten years Yosef was successful as the general manager of the household of one the chief ministers of Pharaohs kingdom.

After ten years he was thrown into the dungeon because of a libelous scandal against him.

It didn’t take long till he rose to the top managerial position in the prison.

The Torah identifies his success in the following summation. 

G-d was with Joseph and made him well-liked among the inmates. He also made the warden of the prison favor him…

The warden of the prison could not find fault in anything that was under Joseph's charge, for G-d was with him, and G-d granted him success in whatever he did.

It could not be stated more clearly. 

Success starts with G-d.

Make sure G-d is with you, and you will have Hatzlacha – success.

To me it seems that the world has never been so ready to hear and implement this message. In 2025 society is ready to embrace, absorb and integrate this concept from the Torah. 

In the ‘olden days’ cynics would roll their eyes at this concept as sounding too ‘esoteric’ or disconnected from reality.

Today no longer. Let me share the following popular teaching which features prominently in ‘how to be successful’ self-help books.

‘Sharpening the saw’

Someone chanced upon a man sawing away vigorously at a large tree, trying to fell it. He suggested that he take a break from sawing to sharpen the saw. The overexerted worker said ‘I am too busy working; I have no time to stop and sharpen the saw’.

The ridiculousness and fallacy in the above way of thinking is obvious.

Today, it’s commonly known that sharpening-your-saw i.e. self-care and maintaining mental and emotional wellbeing all contribute to a more efficient output. It’s a small investment in time and effort that ultimately saves time and effort. And most of all it yields a more powerful output.

We are all trained to look deeper than the immediate action. 

Eating healthy and exercising regularly is a good path toward better bodily health.

We know that some things disturb balanced living.

Trauma sometimes causes post traumatic imbalance.

Output is better when you have a healthy mind and body. 

The reason is fairly straightforward.

The human is made up of multiple components but they all comprise one living being. 

There are action-oriented limbs like hands and feet.  There is an emotional component which fuels our motivations and fears. As humans we also have the incredible G-d-given gift of human intelligence. We have a capacity for intelligence and self-awareness. We are not robots. We are thinking, feeling and self-aware beings. 

This is why there is great importance and value in recognizing and aligning with the purpose and meaning of life.

Because Hashem has created the human with various dimensions that all comprise one wholesome human being, the more we can get the various parts to be seamlessly integrated the better the functionality of the person.

When you balance all aspects of your body/emotions and mind you will get a human being functioning at his prime.

All this is true. It’s logical. Conventional wisdom tells us this. Many authors have written books developing this topic. Just visit the self-help aisle in the bookstore or ask Ai.

Let us now explore the Torah’s perspective. 

The Torah teaches us that there is a deeper core truth that we ought to pay attention to.

The G-dly spiritual component.

The entire universe is likened to a body housing the soul. Hashem is the Creator and energy provider of every aspect of creation.

The Torah is the ‘blueprint’ of the world. 

Every aspect of the universe, as spiritual or as material as it may be, are all an articulation of the blueprint that Hashem has spelled out (subtly and cryptically) in the Torah.

If the physical world is like creating a tailor-made glove, the Torah – G-d’s energy – is like the hand that the glove is tailored to fit.

The Torah’s instructions (mitzvah’s) are the manufacturers guide to the machine that the manufacturer produced. It is ludicrous to press the wrong buttons and pull the wrong levers and expect the machine to operate properly. 

When one has Hashem with him – i.e. lives life in accordance with Hashem’s directive, everything he does in life will be successful.

When the body does not listen to the soul, it elicits disharmony. It can thus lead to dissonance that doesn’t allow for optimal performance. 

‘Sharpening the saw’ now takes on a far deeper dimension that is directly G-d focused.

The true existential energy and lifeforce of the world is G-d. 

The material side of the world may be touchable and measurable, but it is merely an external component of the Divine energy that vivifies the material object that was created. Albeit the G-dly energy is not available to the sense of touch.

Would you make the mistake of writing checks when your bank account is empty? 

Sometimes kids think that getting money is easy. Just take that plastic card to the ATM and take out money. Quickly we learn that the ATM is only as cash filled as your bank account.

If you are rushing to get cash from your account but you need someone to wire some money to the account, you would obviously need to arrange a transfer of funds to your account first before you insert your ATM card.

To give a practical example. Wouldn’t it be ludicrous to skip praying to Hashem to ask for success and rather just going into the meeting without prayer?

This is not a ‘self-help-hack’. This is not just ‘conventional wisdom’ gleaned from studying the habits of successful businesspeople. 

This is the Torah telling us the truth about G-d’s world.

The self-help books speak about ‘work/life balance’. It’s good advice. The Torah advocates very strongly for persevering good health and balancing work and rest. 

But don’t stop there my dear friend.

The Torah gives us glasses to look to the core, to the G-dly truth.

The Torah speaks much deeper as it is the source of life.

The Torah speaks about a dimension of heaven and earth that we straddle and bring together.

We need to recognize G-dly input and human actions as being two parts of G-d’s creation. 

They seem to be mutually incompatible. Indeed, they are sometimes competing and vying for the person’s attention. Yet, really, they are two parts of one dance and can operate in (near-)perfect equilibrium and balance.

For example:

‘Hashem will bless you in all that you do’ says the Torah. 

Two parts. 

Hashem's blessing. Our doing. 

Sometimes one will overdo the ‘doing’ and stress and overwork. 

At other times, they may not be making enough effort and relying too much on Hashems’ blessing to bring the desired outcome.

We need to try to get a good balance between the two.

Yosef the son of Yaakov was perfectly aligned with Hashem. 

This alignment expressed itself in his balanced approach to faith and trust in Hashem on the one hand, and his efforts on the other.

His faith was consummate. Therefore, his success was absolute.

Let us start by recognizing that these are ‘two sides of the same coin’.

Ready to be successful?

Invest in balance.

Faith and attempt.

Prayer and effort.

Body and soul.

Torah study and mitzvah doing. 

And keep on doing what Yosef did. He didn’t hide his affiliation with Hashem.

At every part of his journey he praised and thanked Hashem for his success. 

So that his success should be attributed to the G-dly blessing. All those who interacted with him knew the source of his success.

As the Torah relates:

Joseph's master saw that Joseph was deeply aware of G-d's presence, always articulating his awareness that G-d was with him and granting him success in all he did.69 Potiphar therefore understood that it was G-d who had granted Joseph success in everything he did.

Joseph thus gained favor with him and became his attendant. His master put him in charge of his household, entrusting all that he owned into his care.

As soon as he had put him in charge of his household and all that he owned, G-d blessed the Egyptian's household in Joseph's merit. God's blessing was evident in everything Potiphar had, both in the house and in the field.

May Hashem bless all of us with investing in our connection to Hashem. May we be blessed with success. May it be evident to us that success comes from our connection to Hashem. 

May we share the attribution of our success to Hashem will all those we know, and may they too become motivated and recognize that Hashem loves us and wants our best, which is why He gave us the Torah and Mitzvahs.

Let us embrace the truth and move it to positive actions.

More G-d’ly involvement – Torah and Mitzvahs – more success, more health, more nachas from loved ones, more peace of mind and a speeded up arrival of Mashiach!

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Yosef Kantor

PS Happy Chanuka for Sunday night!!! Light a Menorah in your home and bring G-dly energy into the world to light up the darkness!


getting not giving

While I was in Yerushalayim last week, I met someone who resides in the USA and his American based family owns a home in Jerusalem. Not so unusual. What was special was the reason they own a home in Israel.

His father was a child Holocaust survivor who immigrated to the USA after the war. After feeling the absolute despair and statelessness of the Jewish survivors after the war, he vowed to himself that when he was able to afford it, he would buy a home in the enteral Jewish homeland, Eretz Yisrael.

He was blessed with success; his son discovered a good deal while he was doing a high level consulting job in Israel. He fulfilled his commitment and made the purchase. The home was renovated and is now a very nice homey dwelling.

The father has since passed. I was now visiting with the son who had come to Israel with his family for the bar mitzvah of their son. 

It was so special to see that the natural place the family gravitates to when they take time off, is their home in Israel. How visionary of the grandfather. Creating an attachment to the Holy Land, the land of the Jewish People, for his children and grandchildren. Some people buy second homes in the mountains, others near the seaside. Having a home in Israel is next level in terms of Jewish commitment. 

Owning a home in Israel is not without precedent. Many great people did so. This week’s parsha Vayishlach relates that the first thing Yaakov did when he arrived back in Israel, was buy a plot of land. The land was so beloved to him that he wanted to demonstrate his endearment to it buy making a land purchase in Israel. 

Even though Jacob had no intention of remaining in Shechem permanently, he purchased the small parcel of land upon which he had pitched his tent in order to demonstrate his love for the land promised him by God. (Book of Bereshit 33:19)

Accompanying the family was their mother who is thank G-d healthy and well. I asked the mother about her background. She told me that was born just after the war to two parents who survived the Holocaust. She was raised in the USA. When I asked her for the story of how her parents met, she told me excitedly that it’s a fascinating story and shared the following:

‘When my father was a boy, he was deported to a concentration camp. Lying in the ‘clinic’ after contracting typhus, there was an older woman who looked at him and thought to herself, ‘what a tragedy’. ‘There is a mother somewhere who is about to lose her son. There is no way that this boy will survive.’ The boy looked at the older woman and thought to himself,’ there is no way the Nazis will let her live. She is too old to be of real value to the work machine that was operating at the camps. They will exterminate her like they did to the millions of others.’

The woman’s maternal instinct was awakened, and she wanted to inject the boy with some hope about a possible future. She told the boy ‘Remember my address. After the war you have a home to come to’. 

Miraculously they both survived. Indeed, the young man managed to make his way to the older woman’s house. When he knocked, a teenage girl answered. The woman had a daughter who had been hidden as a gentile in one of the surrounding villages. Some time later they got married. They emigrated to Israel and planned to live there. Unfortunately, the husband fell ill because of his ordeals in the concentration camp and required a very nutritious diet and much rest. The doctor told him that if he stayed in Israel, he had less chance to survive his illness. It was at the early stages of Israel’s independence; there were food shortages and many challenges. They made it to the USA where their daughter, (the mother I was speaking to), was raised.

I was inspired by this story. 

The woman who thought she was helping a young boy, was preparing, unbeknownst to her, the future husband of her daughter. 

The Torah teaches that when you help someone else you are really helping yourself. 

This story portrays that quite vividly.

Next time you see someone who needs help, reach out and help them.

Sometimes they need a nice supportive conversation.

Or a warm nutritious meal or urgently needed funds. 

Sharing a mitzvah opportunity is a incredible gift to give someone as it yields eternal benefits. In this world and the next world. 

And Hashem has embedded into creation that there is an epic side benefit to helping someone else. 

You get helped yourself!

 There is another story that illustrates this.

There was a man trudging through the forest during a brutal winter night. The traveler was freezing, weary and desperate. He thought to himself, ‘let me stop for a little rest.’ But he knows that if he stops, he may not start again and he will almost certainly meet his death in the snow. He pushes himself and keeps going. Eventually, he feels that he is just so exhausted that he can’t go further and convinces himself that if he rests for a few minutes he will regain his strength. As he clears away some snow to prepare an area to sit down in, he notices a lifeless human form in the snow. After closer scrutiny he determines that the person he found is still alive albeit barely hanging on to life. 

Moved by compassion, the first man decides to help the other, despite his own extreme weakness. He wraps his arms around the second man, hugging him tightly, and begins to rub his hands, legs, face, and neck to stimulate circulation and share his body heat. He spends the entire night focused on keeping the other person alive, pleading with him not to give up. 

When dawn breaks, a person with a sled drove by and took them both, to safety and medical help.

As the doctor treats the patient, the rescuer relates the sequence of events. The doctor exclaims, ‘your intervention saved two people. The one you saved and your yourself who would have frozen to death were you to have stopped to rest’.  

The message is so clear.

When you nurture someone else's spirit, your own spirit is strengthened.

In giving warmth, you receive it.

When you lift others, you too are lifted. 

When you help someone do a mitzvah you are helping them connec to G-d and to their deepest essence.

You too are simultaneously connecting to G-d and strengthening your inner spark of G-d – your neshama.

So, next time you meet someone who can use some help, don’t say oy vey and complain about the possible inconvenience. 

Rather think about the amazing opportunity that G-d has presented to you. 

To help His child.

G-d loves each of us – his children.

We ought to get better and yet better at loving each other.

Our sages teach that one never loses out by helping someone else.

Hinei mah tov umahnaim shevet achim gam yachad.

הנה מה טוב ומה נעים שבת אחים גם יחד

Lechayim!

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Yosef Kantor

 

 

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