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"Shabbat Shalom from Bangkok"

power of 'many'

Computers are so prevalent that it’s hard to remember life before them. And for many younger people it’s impossible to imagine life without them.

Recently, when I asked a bar mitzvah student who looked tired, ‘how did you sleep last night’ he looked down at his watch and pressed a button. He proceeded to give me a rundown. He was in bed for nine hours. Of those hours there was some better sleep, some less quality sleep, his heart rate was steady, all of these myriad details measured by the small watch he wears. Incredible.

I took a stroll down memory lane to my bar mitzvah. When I celebrated my bar mitzvah (besides for the Sifrei Kodesh – holy books that I received and still use to this day), the most memorable tech gift I got was a calculator watch. Tiny buttons, a small screen, hard to use, but a full-on calculator. It was the coolest thing you could imagine.

Once down memory lane I reminisced about our arrival to Thailand in 1993. When we first got to Thailand Mrs Myra Borisute bought us three very memorable and expensive items. A top quality, full-size American oven and stovetop for Nechama. A mobile phone ‘so we can reach you when needed, a rabbi needs to be reachable’ and a computer for making flyers and writing newsletters. 

With these ‘tools’ Nechama and I were able to start our work with full power.

Nechama’s oven and stove produced challas, cakes, chicken soups and all of the other goodies that builds family and communal life.

I started to get my ‘feet wet’ in (pre-internet) computer usage and started to use it for community programing. 

For example, one of the ways I used my computer was as follows. When Pesach came, it was up to me to figure out how many kg’s of matzah, how many bottles of wine, how many chickens and how many dishes we needed to order.

For those of you who remember the olden days, there was pen, paper, calculator and using your mind to figure things out.

Now that I was becoming computer literate, I was introduced to the Windows program called Excel. 

The beauty and power of the spreadsheet was that once I put in the formula, I just needed to update the amount of people, and all those calculations were computed automatically.

A rabbi can use spreadsheets for community events planning. 

A chef can use it for menu planning.

A business can use it for earning forecasts. 

And an army general could use it for soldier deployment planning.

If a general were planning how many soldiers would be needed to drive the invading enemy away from your borders the formula may look something like this.

If the enemy has one hundred soldiers positioned to attack; what is the number of soldiers needed to drive away the enemy.

Once that number is established, the greater the number of enemy forces, the larger the army one needs to assemble to vanquish the enemy.

In this week’s parsha the Torah says that if the people of Israel study Torah and listens and fulfils G-d’s commandments they will be blessed with peace. 

If someone tries to upset that peace, if an enemy rises against them, five Israelite soldiers will be sufficient to repel one hundred enemy troops.

That sounds like a miraculous and blessed formula.

Five ‘good guys’ are stronger than twenty ‘bad guys’.

If you take that blessed supernatural Torah formula and put that into excel as the basis of computing security need you wouldn’t be wrong if you called for five hundred troops when faced with an enemy buildup of ten thousand troops. 

If five are needed to repel one hundred, five hundred are needed to drive off ten thousand.

One hundred divided by twenty is five.

Then thousand divided by twenty is five hundred.

It’s uneven but G-d will make it work.

This is an incredibly miraculous promise in terms of the power of Jewish soldiers when armed with G-d’s blessing.

It gets much better than that.

The continuation of the verse throws this computation totally off the predicable mathematic charts.

The full verse in the Torah (Vayikra-Leviticus 26:8) reads: ‘five of your soldiers will drive away one hundred of the enemies. One hundred of your soldiers will drive away ten thousand of the enemy forces’. 

This does not compute using a mathematical formula.

The mathematical based spreadsheet would compute: five can be victorious over one hundred, one hundred can be victorious over two thousand. 

Our Sages introduce a concept that is powerful and empowering.

‘The combined power when there are ‘many’ who follow in G-d’s path yields incomparably more blessing than the power when there are but a ‘few’ who do G-d’s bidding’.

When five are jointly committed to G-d’s path, they can miraculously be victorious over one hundred enemies.

One hundred who are jointly serving G-d, are assured victory of ten thousand opponents.

This is Divine ‘compounded’ Mathematics.

This is awesomely uplifting.

Think about it.

You may say to yourself, what is the big deal if I don’t join the ranks of my fellow Jews in doing the mitzvah available to me. 

Of course, I don’t want to harm anyone, certainly not my Jewish brethren. I want to be community minded and do what is best for my people, you think to yourself. 

But sometimes one can get dispirited and think ‘how much difference will my one lone action make’?

One more or one less, how important can that be to the collective?

First of all, the power of one deed cannot be underestimated. As the Rambam summed it up as if the world is totally balanced and your one good deed can tip the scale. 

And then there is this weeks Torah portion that injects yet more power to the deeds of each and every one of us. 

The Torah teaches us that our one good deed is not just one more deed. When added to the mitzvahs that others are doing, it equals compounded and collective power that is much greater than the ‘one’ that was added. 

This reinforces in the most powerful way possible the critical importance and the immense power inherent in Jewish unity.

The divine miraculous power that Jewish unity injects into our collective journey is our ‘secret weapon’.

During these turbulent and unpredictable times, when our people are under attack in countries that one never would have imagined, we need to access and ‘power up’ our invincible weapon.

Jewish unity.

It is easy to call on ‘them’, the government, the ‘leaders’ to foster peace and unity. One can choose to point fingers and blame this one or that one for debilitating disunity among our people.

The real truth is that it needs to be a grassroots effort. You and I have the power to ‘keep our eyes on the prize’ and highlight, generate and promote our unity.

Not just that we are all equally hated by our sworn enemies.  It is true that in the eyes of an antisemite we are all one group. But that is a depressing way to think of Jewish unity.

Rather we ought to think about the things that bring us together and unite us in a positive way.

Our joint past. 

We all stood together at Mount Sinai and received the Torah united ‘as one person with one heart’.

In the present, although at the surface it may not always be obvious, at our core, we all love each other and each and every Jew, we all love the Torah and we all love G-d!

And G-d loves us all equally and unconditionally. 

And we ought to project the way it will look in the glorious Messianic future that we await.

The Prophet says in the name of Hashem, that in the future Redemption, NO JEW WILL BE LEFT BEHIND.

We, each and every one of us will be redeemed by Mashiach as a united people. 

Let us strengthen our resolve to act in a unified way, and add – even if they are small steps that we start with - in mitzvahs of loving kindness between each other and strengthening our connection to G-d.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Yosef Kantor


my favorite day

One of my favorite days is today.

Pesach Sheni – literally ‘Second Pesach’.

The quick story about this day is:

A year after the Exodus, G-d instructed the people of Israel to bring the Passover offering on the afternoon of the fourteenth of Nissan, and to eat it that evening, roasted over the fire, together with matzah and bitter herbs, as they had done the previous year just before they left Egypt.

“There were, however, certain persons who had become ritually impure through contact with a dead body, and could not, therefore, prepare the Passover offering on that day. They approached Moses and Aaron . . . and they said: ‘. . . Why should we be deprived, and not be able to present G-d’s offering in its time, amongst the children of Israel?’” (Numbers 9:6–7).

In response to their plea, G-d established the 14th of Iyar as a day for the “Second Passover” (Pesach Sheni) for anyone who was unable to bring the offering on its appointed time in the previous month.

Read the Original Narrative

This day is very special to me. 

Because this day represents the “second chance” achieved by teshuvah, the power of repentance and “return.” In the words of Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak of Lubavitch, “The Second Passover means that it’s never a ‘lost case.’

Our conduct can always be rectified. Even someone who is impure, who was far away and even desired to be so, can still correct himself.”  There is no justification for despair. Every individual, no matter what his situation, always has the potential to make a “leap forward” (the literal translation of the Hebrew word pesach) in his service of G-d.

As I write these words on Friday afternoon, I am running a bit off schedule as I am coming from a morning funeral.

Not a happy event. 

Yet, the mood was not a depressing one.

To me, it seemed like the bereaved sons had a feeling of accomplishment and a sense of relief that they were able to provide their 73-year-old deceased father a true Jewish burial.

The vigor and dedication with which the Chevra Kadish, (comprised of the local rabbis and lay community members) carried out their labor of love was outstanding.

Hashem provided a clear and very sunny day. In the pastoral and quiet fields of rural Chachoengsao you could hear the birds chirping in the background. 

The deceased Tzi’s family name is Shinzinger which literally translates to ‘beautiful singer’. That is what the chirping of the birds sounded like to me. 

Overall, it felt somewhat surreal. 

As if I could hear the melody and song of a life properly balanced and aligned as things were unfolding in the way they should, in the lifecycle of a Jew.

It wasn’t always like that.

I cannot forget the first time I was called up to officiate at the funeral of a Jewish woman in 1993 or shortly thereafter. 

The burial grounds that had been used by Jews living and passing in Thailand was the Protestant cemetery. In perusing the Halachic sources, it was very evident that presiding over a Jewish funeral in a non-dedicated Jewish cemetery was problematic. 

However, it was clear to me that unlike the communities of yore, in Eastern Europe or even modern-day diaspora, where Jewish burial options exist, here there were not acceptable options. 

Cremation, which was the only other option, is totally anathema to Judaism and is 100% forbidden according to Jewish law. 

I gave a speech in English eulogizing the deceased woman. 

Then I followed up with a short statement in Hebrew. 

‘Truthfully, I am not allowed to preside over this funeral as we are interring a Jew into a non-dedicated Jewish cemetery plot. However, the other choice – cremation - is infinitely worse. I pledge beli-neder on behalf of us all, that we will see to get a Jewish cemetery and we will move this deceased to the new Jewish cemetery’.

Miraculously, not long after that the adjoining plot of land, separated by a high wall, was discovered to be a possible location for a Jewish cemetery.

Through the joint efforts of the pioneering members of our community, Mr. Mike Gerson of blessed memory, Mr. Abi Kashani, Mr. Ron Cristal and Mrs. Myra Borisute and several others (apologies for not naming everyone involved) may they all be health and well, the funds were raised and the cemetery was established.

It’s been more than thirty years, and the initial piece of land is almost full. Several years ago, we began a campaign to buy new cemetery land. This was purchased in Chachoengsao, registered as a burial place, and inaugurated and sanctified by the Chevra Kadisha as we did ‘circuits’ around the perimeters of the land. 

Today’s burial is the third person to be buried in this new cemetery.

As I mentioned at each of these three burials, the deceased who are buried in this opening stage are ‘pioneers’ of sorts as they ‘pave the way’ for enabling proper Jewish burial for as long as Jews live in Thailand. 

Of course, we pray to arrive at the Mashiach stage very soon and not need to bury any more.

Once we have arrived at this stage, we can move forward please G-d in the plans to landscape the premises and create an ascetically pleasing, pastoral, serene and quiet final resting place for our loved ones.

Why do I sound passionate about a topic so sad and disheartening?  

Because of its primary importance in Jewish life.

This week’s Parsha provides a very clear instruction about our obligation to bury a Jewish person who passes away.

Usually, the family would be the ones to lovingly bear that responsibility.

In the instance that a Jew passes away without any relatives, and no one to look after interring him.

This is referred to as a ‘met mitzvah’ i.e. ‘a deceased whom it is a mitzvah to care for’.

Torah law obligates a Kohen Gadol, on Yom Kippur, to leave the "holy of holies" to take care of a met mitzvah(!) 

This is how important taking care of our dead and burying them properly is.

There is a cultural epidemic in the Jewish world today that I want to address.

It used to be a given, a default for anyone who was even mildly Jewishly inclined to choose burial as their wishes after death.

I was born a Jew, I wish to be buried as a Jew. 

Whatever journey one may have had in the interim, the final wishes of Jews throughout the thousands of years has always been burial. Whether we were living in Israel, in the Diaspora, whether during times of suffering or times of plenty, the choice has always been Jewish burial.

This long held assumption is under assault and challenged in today's climate and that is why I want to talk about it and address it.

For some inexplicable reason it has become fashionable to think that cremation has benefits over burial.

There are multiple reasons why throughout our history, a traditional Jewish burial was always considered a highest priority. There are many reasons that cremation should be off the table for a Jew.

 Click here for a full essay on the topic.

Let me just add that if one fully grasps and visualizes the process of cremation they would recoil from that choice.

In my humble opinion, the real and foremost reason that Jewish burial is under assault, is the economics. Simply the price of carrying out a Jewish burial in many countries is expensive. 

In Thailand, where cremation is the default and so many options exist, where burial is almost nonexistent it is particularly challenging.

Add to this the economic factor. Many of the Jews who move here as elderly people are living on small pensions, often with no family safety net, and when they pass away it seems that the only option within financial reach is cremation G-d forbid.

Through the donations of philanthropic Jewish visionaries, our community has been blessed to be able to provide a solution to this option. 

In our new cemetery, the cost of burial is very affordable as the large tract of land  sits in Chachoengsao, a rural area 60-90 minutes’ drive from Bangkok. 

Most importantly, our community is blessed with some generous friends who see to it that if a Jews passes away and does not have funds, they will donate to the ‘Met Mitzvah fund’ will cover the burial from A-Z. (If you wish to be one of those who participate in this mitzvah please let me know).

If burying a fellow Jew is important enough to take the High Priest from his holiest role (in a met mitzvah situation), we must take this mitzvah very seriously and take responsibility to provide proper Jewish burial in the most feasible way possible.

Enough said about passing away.

We choose LIFE.

If this is the way we ought to treat our dead, HOW MUCH MORE SO must we treat our fellow living Jews with love, care and compassion.

The mitzvah of helping the dead is called ‘chessed shel emmet’ , a kindness of truth. 

Do you know why?

Because when you help a living person there may be an angle in how you think you will be reimbursed with a favor by the person you are helping. When you help someone who passed away it is a ‘true’ favor as they can no longer repay you.

This is the way we ought to do acts of compassion and kindness to others.

Without expecting anything in return.

Pure kindness and benevolence with no agenda or motive.

Look around you and see who you can help.

When you rejoice, see who else you can invite to rejoice with you.

Even though you are doing it with purity, you will by default be a recipient of the greatest feeling possible.

The feeling of partnering with Hashem in spreading chessed kindness to His creations. 

Shabbat Shalom

Rabbi Yosef Kantor


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