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UNITY! Shabbat Shalom from Bangkok!

By the Grace of G-d

Dear Esther,

Do you agree with the following statement?

Two or more people working on a project is better than one.

The Torah does.

A deeper reading into the following verse from this week’s parsha gives us the reason why.

Arm from among you righteous men for the army, that they can do battle against Midian, and carry out the revenge of God against Midian

Who is this Midian, G-d’s ‘enemy’ that we need to take ‘revenge’ for?

Or to phrase it differently, what does Midian do or represent that G-d finds so unacceptable?

In one word: disunity

G-d ‘loves’ unity. Divisiveness is abhorrent to G-d.

Midian can be reread as the Hebrew word that denotes strife-quarrel-bitter disagreement. (Madon, uMerivah).

G-d is the absolute paradigm of Unity. 

As we recite twice daily in the ‘Shma Yisrael’: Hear O Israel, Hashem is our G-d, Hashem is One – Hashem Echad.

Simply put, G-d’s presence resides where there is unity. In a situation where there is infighting and quarreling, G-d considers it offensive and does not rest His Shechina (holy presence) there.

It is not always so easy to get along with others. It requires investment and effort.

In a world that looks for shortcuts and ‘hacks’ some people may be thinking that they can overcome the effort needed to coexist and have teamwork with others if they simply stick to themselves without cooperating with others. 

Autocracy would seem like a way to make sure there is no divisiveness. Who would fight with their own self?  It may seem tempting to employ this shortcut to ruling out disunity. Simply having no one else in the picture.

In this mistaken way of thinking, working solo will enable you to have ‘unity’ (or at least not disharmony). G-d’s blessing will thus be upon you.

Good try. But missing a very important piece of the puzzle.

The blessing of Hashem comes only where there are separate parts, differing entities that come together in unity. Only when the harmony is created by bringing together differing components, does the blessing reside.

Bringing people together in collaboration is the greatest vehicle for G-d’s presence and blessing.

Every one of us has a ‘piece of G-d’ inside of us. 

The act of joining two ‘pieces of G-d’ together to jointly do something positive creates a ‘chemical (G’dly) reaction’ of the fusion and amalgamating of two as they unite into one. This invites G-d’s omnipotent energy into the endeavor.

There is another important thing to consider.

We each have a good voice inside of us and a negative voice.

Have you ever encountered something you wanted to do or eat but deep down you knew that you shouldn’t?

One voice says ‘indulge’ even if it’s the wrong thing.

The other voice says, ‘be mature and resist the temptation’.

Or one voice says ‘help your friend who is struggling’.

While the other voice says, ‘why do you have to give of your own time and resources to help someone else’.

When we discuss our dilemma with someone else, we have the best possible chance to come to the right decision. There is a component to this equation that leads to a winning and blessed outcome.

When collaborating with your fellow about a moral choice, (and almost every decision in our life has moral implications, as we are to serve Hashem with every aspect of our lives), you are pitting two ‘good voices’ against one ‘negative voice’.

‘Two Yezer Tov’s against one Yetzer Hara’.

What? 

How does that make sense. 

We know that our own personal battle between our ‘internal voices’ is a balanced one. Which means that our good is pitted evenly against our negative. The way you can be sure of this is because we all know from personal experience that it’s (sometimes, or more often that sometimes) a struggle to make the right choice. 

If two people get together why would that balance change.

Wouldn’t it still be an evenly pitched battle? With two good inclinations up against two negative inclinations?

Listen to this transformational answer.

Our inner voice of negativity is the voice of ego and selfishness. It truly cares nothing about someone else. It is totally self-absorbed and does not see anyone else or care about anyone else. It doesn’t even give a hoot if your friend does the wrong thing or the right thing. 

Whereas one’s good inclination cares very much about other people. It desperately wants you to be good and everyone else to be good.

(Perhaps this is a good example to help understand this point.

As teenagers we make the mistake that our friends who we have fun with are our TRUE friends.

Our parents and family who ‘nudge’ us and restrict us from having ‘fun’ don’t truly care about us.

When you ask your teenage ‘friends’ for their advice, they are likely thinking about what is better for them. 

When you ask your parents (in the classic paradigm of loving and responsible and emotionally-healthy parents) for their advice, you can be sure that they are thinking very much about what is best for you).

Two people getting together is thus two ‘pieces of G-d’ against one negative inclination.

The blessing of that union is the catalyst and generator of receiving G-d’s blessing of success and goodliness.

This message cannot be over emphasized. 

We are almost two thousand years in exile because we had unwarranted hatred.

Reasons for destruction of Bet Hamikdash

The antidote is radical, unwarranted, unearned LOVE.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

This will bring us Mashiach.

Shabbat Shalom,

Chodesh Tov

Rabbi Yosef Kantor

PS. based on the Rebbe’s call to implement the words of Yeshayahu (Isaah) the prophet, Zion is redeemed through the study of Torah and its captives through charitable deeds’ by adding in Torah study, Prayer and Charitable acts of Kindness during this mourning period, we are hosting a week long ‘Project Torah’ at Bet Elisheva as per below details.

WE WANT MASHIACH NOW.

WE WANT MASHIACH NOW.

As a child, just before my bar mitzvah I learned those simple words. They are also the most powerfully cosmic-shaking words, as they are asking (demanding) Hashem for imminent world change. 

NOW.

It was the fall of 1980, and the Rebbe had just launched the special children’s movement called Tzivot Hashem

The Rebbe would encourage the children as they would sing for him their theme song: We Want Moshiach Now

It seemed that it was the children who were able to identify with and express the Rebbe’s passion to bring the world to peace and goodness.

The simplicity and innocence of children allows for a refreshingly untainted naïveté attitude to life. When they sing that they want Mashiach, they really mean it. 

I would like to ask you an adult-to-adult question. 

Do you want Mashiach now?

In a vulnerable moment I turn the question inward and ask myself ‘do I want Mashiach now’?

As we are now in the ‘three weeks’ marking the destruction of the Temple and our descent into exile, we are doing things to try and bring Mashiach. Adding in Torah study (see below about our Torah Study Week in Bangkok), increasing our giving Tzedaka and being more diligent in prayer.

It is a great time to reflect on this topic. 

Here is what I mean.

I know a couple that is married for many decades and while the man is in generally good health, he can’t get out of the house much. I met his wife who came to do some pre-Shabbat shopping and asked about her husband and sent regards.

She shared something with me that has me thinking. 

‘My husband is in good overall health and while he can’t get out of the house much, he is very busy at home’. I asked with what he is busy, thinking that perhaps he had an online occupation. ‘He is busy fixing things in the house’ she replied.

I jokingly suggested that perhaps when everything is fixed, they should move home and then there will be more work for her husband. 

‘My husband says I don’t have enough time to do all the things in need to do, as things are always breaking’. ‘There will always be things to fix’ she concludes.

Many of us will chuckle when we read this story. 

It dawns on me that this line of thought may be more common than that is evident. 

Are we (secretly) relieved when something breaks so that we will have something to fix?

Do we try and raise our children to be reliant on us so that we stay relevant as parents.

How about our relationship with our students? Are we fearful that our students may know more than us?

And the question of all questions, the way it relates to the individual viz a viz himself.

Most of us will tell you that we would like to be successful.

If we look more deeply and analyze ourselves, we may be surprised.

Are we really open to achieving our stated goals? Or do we have an inner fear of success which presents the greatest barrier to actually succeeding?

If you achieve your financial goals, are you worried about what will get you out of bed in the morning?

Do we really want Mashiach in our personal lives?

I mean the personal redemption that can be ours before the cosmic redemption. That would mean living in a space where all our issues are solved and we are living a stress-free life. 

Do you really want to be problem free? 

Are you ready to start living a lifestyle that echoes and mirrors redemption in terms of state of mind?

My guess is that you may be a tad fearful.

You may question whether or not you will have relevance if you are not needed to ‘fix’ anything.

Here is a radical presentation of what living life in ‘exile’ can look like.

The story of a man who goes to the shoe store to buy a pair of shoes, comes to mind. After the shoe salesman measures his feet for size, he asks to buy a pair of shoes half a size smaller than his foot. When the salesman raises his eyebrows in amazement, the customer explains.

‘When I buy a small pair of shoes, I am assured of a wonderful feeling at the end of the day. For whatever may have transpired during the day, disappointing as it may have been, the feeling of relief that I get when I take off my shoes at night is euphoric’.

How sad when the only thing one can look forward to is taking off tight shoes at night.

Even more tragic, is the mindset of being anchored in failure. To the extent that in advance, they prepare a self-inflicted pain in order to provide a pleasure to indulge in.

(This is the challenge and tragedy of addiction. 

When relief is achieved by indulging in something that one self-creates dependency on. 

One is not born craving the substance or experience that they are dependent on. 

After creating dependency, the struggle of addiction becomes acute. The absence of the substance is painful; the indulgence brings the pleasure of relief. 

In no way am I intending to minimize the struggles of addiction by overgeneralizing. Just using it as an angle for self-awareness. 

May Hashem give the strugglers the strength to overcome).

The Rebbe said that we are living in a time when the coming of Mashiach is so so near

Even the kids sing ‘We Want Mashiach Now’.

As adults we have to stop being scared of not having something to fix.

It is time to mature to a place of wellness.

To find meaning in our role as G-d’s agents on earth.

Not just to be fixers and saviors to problems.

Not to live with a dependency on accolades and feedback from others.

Rather, to live with positivity and optimism. 

(The first building block of the Code of Jewish Law is ‘do not be shy or stifled in the face of cynics and scoffers’.

This means that we have to maintain our mitzvahs and values even if others poke fun at us.

Perhaps it is also telling us that we have to think of one thing and one thing alone.

I am in the presence of G-d. It is He who has created me. It is a relationship with Him that is the reason for my being. The fact that He created me and placed me on earth is the greatest validation I can get. Nothing else is of any consequence of interest to me). 

This weeks parsha has a recipe for living in a redemptive way.

There are some offerings in the Bet Hamikdash that are periodical. Like the Shabbat and Holiday sacrifices.

Or reactive. Like the sacrifice brought after one has a life-saving miracle.

Then there is the proactive constant offering. 

The daily offering. In the morning and in the afternoon.

Rain or shine.

Happy or sad.

Holy or mundane.

On Yom Kippur or on a regular Wednesday.

This represents our constant attachment to Hashem.

Symbolically it tells us about connecting to Hashem in whatever state of being you may be. 

In the morning. Meaning, when the sun is shining brightly and my mood is up, I may not feel the need for a dependence on G-d.

I acknowledge that all comes from Him.

Bring an offering and connect to G-d – the morning prayers. 

At the afternoon. When the sun is setting and I may be feeling down and despondent and questioning whether there is even any point to trying. Am I even relevant to Him?

Bring an offering and connect to G-d – the afternoon prayers.

Remind yourself that He created you and is waiting to hear from you.

In our health system, we are working hard to get to the Mashiach’s times. We yearn for the day that we will overcome the major health challenges of our generation. 

What will doctors do when there are no more sick people to heal?

They will be busy with wellness. Preventative medicine.

Can you imagine when there will be no more anti-semitism?

We won’t need to expend energy and resources on fighting that scrounge, we will be able to allocate all of our talent and resources to learning and teaching about G-d and His Torah.

The coming of Mashiach will mean peace, prosperity, stress-free living, and all problems solved. 

It is scary to imagine. Especially if you get your relevance from fixing things.

But it is G-dly and goodly. We await, we embrace it and we yearn for it.

Let us take that leap and together scream out loudly and clearly, to ourselves and to the world around us:

WE WANT MASHIACH NOW!

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Yosef Kantor

transformational living

The way I see it, this week’s Parsha is a flagship for transformational living.

Balaam, the greatest prophet and most professional ‘curser’ of his time, the ‘bad guy on the block’, concedes that he cannot do anything but what G-d tells him to do.

 If Balak gives me his house full of silver and gold, I cannot transgress the word of God to do either good or evil on my own; I can speak only what God speaks.

Understanding that anything that comes your way is from G-d, even if it’s not what you would have chosen, is transformational.

The biggest impediment for many people is the ‘blame game’. 

It is easier to blame something or someone and live in the ‘if only I wouldn’t have this, or I would have that’ than to deal with the issue at hand and move forward. 

How many people don’t even try to succeed because they feel that they have been placed in compromised conditions.

‘How can I be successful if G-d didn’t bless me with superior intelligence/money/good looks/esteemed pedigree’ (or anything else that could be placed to fill in this blank).

Take it from Balaam. Nothing happens if it not willed by G-d to happen. Balaam desperately wanted to succeed at cursing the Jews. More than anything else in the world.

He was not a force not to be reckoned with. 

Balaam was the most intelligent man of his time. He was working in tandem with the most powerful king Balak. Together they had brains, money, power, determination and whatever else would be needed.

Each of them tried to outdo the other when it came to hating and conspiring to destroy the Jews.

Ultimately, they had to concede and retreat ‘tail between their legs’.

If G-d doesn’t want the Jews to be harmed, He simply doesn’t allow the enemy to speak words of curse. 

On the contrary. G-d transforms the intended curses into blessings.

We end up with a parsha full of the most incredible blessings of the Torah. All coming from the mouth of an avowed hater of the Jews. The curses are transformed into blessings.

We are living in blessed and miraculous times. 

The missiles of Iran were raring and ready to go. The intention of the Ayatollahs was to kill and destroy the Jewish people in Israel (and wherever we may be) in a way that I don’t even want to put on paper.

G-d Almighty protected Am Yisrael and will continue to protect us. For eternity.

The forces of Israel, aided by the army of the USA carried out their missions, blessed by G-d to be successful beyond expectations.

Click here to read ‘An Enormous Hug: Witnessing Miracles, Embracing Kindness’

They wanted to cause us to mourn, we now have huge reasons to celebrate. And celebrate and say thanks to G-d we must.

Make a toast and sing a song of thanks to Hashem for protecting us with His protective canopy of Shalom – Sukkat Shalom.

And let us personalize this lesson so that it uplifts us and inspires us.

Let us wake up and recognize that we are exactly where we need to be.

Don’t try and excuse yourself for not living up to your potential because of something or someone.

Embrace the reality of G-d. 

Trust in G-d. Truly. To the point where you move forward and put forth your best efforts to succeed.

And open yourself up for the energy of this week’s Parsha, where curses turn into blessings.

Imagine your greatest obstacle, your most formidable challenge, becoming your greatest asset and blessing.

No. Don’t just imagine. Believe that all is for the good. Trust in G-d that He wants your best. Always. Forever. 

Albeit, we can’t always see it.

Become empowered by this reframing of your tailor-made set of circumstances that G-d has woven as the tapestry of your life.

Don’t run away from G-d’s embrace.

You think that is obvious? Not if one is childish.

Listen to this story someone just shared with me.

It starts off as a story about giving Tzedaka and ends in an inspiring realization.

My friend and his wife had given a sizeable amount of Tzedaka to help the needy. They were feeling stretched, but they were quite pleased about their efforts.

Like exercising, feeling a bit sore means that you are probably making progress in your training regimen.

A day later, as the family is relaxing at home in the afternoon, someone knocks on the door. 

The father opened the door and to his utmost shock the neighbor from down the road was holding his two-year-old infant (who he assumed was quietly playing in the back of the house) by the hand. 

His neighbor explained that he had found the infant wandering in his garden across the street. This meant that somehow in the space of a few minutes, the infant had crossed the street and entered the neighbor’s property.

The parents checked their cameras and saw one of their houseguests had left the house through a side gate that hadn’t properly closed after they left. The child ran out of the open door, crossed the road went to the neighbor’s house and emerged miraculously unscathed from this ‘outing’.

What a miracle. A modern-day reenactment of what Rabbi Akiva taught us nearly two thousand years ago. ‘Tzedaka saves from death’. 

Click here for the story about ‘The Snake in the Wall’.

The father, in telling the story, pointed out something else.

In the camera, you see the two-year-old infant discovering an open door and running away. If you didn’t know the background it could look as if he was running from being kidnapped G-d forbid by a bullying tyrant. When in reality, the child was living in a two-parent loving and embracing home. 

What was the child running away from?

It doesn’t make sense.

Yet, it may be a very telling story for us to meditate about.

Is it possible that if we think about it more deeply, we may find similarities to this behavior in our own lives and conduct?

G-d Loves YOU. 

Run towards HIM.

With reciprocal love.

And may all your perceived curses, and all your very real challenges, get transformed into powerful blessings.

This parsha is full of reference to Mashiach’s coming. 

May it be NOW before we need to start remembering the destruction of the Bet Hamikdash marked by the fast of 17 Tammuz this Sunday.

Click here for more info about the ‘Three Weeks’ and Sundays fast day.

When Mashiach comes the fast days will be transformed into FEAST days. 

This will be the greatest reenactment of the Balaam curses being transformed into blessings.

The best is yet to come. We are almost, almost, almost there.

One more mitzvah can tip the scales to the tipping point where Redemption by Mashiach unfolds.

AMEN

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Yosef Kantor

What do you really want?

There is a story that I like to tell.

Of a Jewish mother who comes to the Rabbi to ask a very ‘Yiddishe Mammeh’ style question.

‘Rabbi, I have a dilemma that does not let me sleep at night.

One of my sons sells heating units.

The other son sells air-conditioning units.

Shall I pray for the weather to be hot or to be cold? 

The Rabbi thought for a minute and responded:

‘Pray to the Almighty that He provide plenty of business to both sons.

The Almighty is omnipotent; He can do the impossible.’

This weeks Parsha tells us about what is possibly the first recorded story of deception being used in warfare.

The Amalekites wanted to do war against the Israelites as they were poised to enter Israel. 

Having previously been defeated by the Israelites (some forty years prior), they were fearful of the superior power of the Jewish people. Not their firepower, but their ‘prayer-power’. They knew that if the Jews pray to Hashem for salvation, even if they would be stronger militarily, they would not be victorious. It was well known from way back that Hashem answers affirmatively to the prayers of the Jews.

So here is what the Amalekites did. 

They disguised themselves as Canaanites. Figuring that the Jewish people will call out to G-d in prayer to save them from the Canaanites. Their prayers would be futile. For they were really Amalekites not Canaanites.

The enemies used deception. The Jewish counterespionage kicked in and countered the deception.

The Jewish people sniffed that something was wrong. The language they were speaking didn’t seem to match up with the clothing. Although they couldn’t pinpoint it, they knew that something was amiss.

So, they adapted their prayers to be more generic.

As the Torah relates:

Israel saw that these enemies who were disguised as Canaanites had Amalekite features, so they made a generic vow to God, and said, “If You deliver this people into my hand, whoever they are, I shall dedicate the spoils of their cities to You.” 

This story tells us so much.

First, it tells us about the power of prayer. When we acknowledge where our strength and power come from and submit ourselves in prayer before G-d we are truly mighty.

Secondly it shares with us that our enemies are most scared of us when we are aligned with G-d. They will go to great lengths to try and sow religious confusion without our midst. It gives them more strength as it makes us more vulnerable.

And perhaps most importantly it teaches us about the dynamics of prayer in our own lives.

That as much as possible one should be specific in their prayers.

If your business is lagging pray for business success.

If health is an issue, pray specifically for your health and the health of your loved ones.

Create your own tailored ‘shopping list’ of requests from G-d. Hashem desires us to reach out to him and acknowledge that He is the source of all our sustenance. The greatest way of doing this is by beseeching Him for all that we need.

There are many instances though that we don’t necessarily have clarity what outcome we should be praying for. 

For that we have the teaching of our Parsha that we can pray generically. 

I had the opportunity to put generic prayers to work earlier this week when I had the merit to visit the Rebbe’s resting place on the special day of Gimmel Tammuz. Many of my readers entrusted me with notes to take on their behalf to be read at the Rebbe’s Ohel on his yartzeit. I printed out their names and requests and placed them as customary at the resting place. 

The mound of papers grew and grew as notes and petitions were carried in by the tens of thousands who visited on that day.

Besides for praying for those explicit requests, I prayed for all of those with whom I am connected. 

This includes YOU.

Not necessarily knowing the specifics of what you need, I prayed generically. For what we all need.

That you be blessed with health. Physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. 

With children and with nachas. From yourself and from your loved ones. 

And with resources. Money resources as well as time and energy. 

And my prayer for our entire people of Am Yisrael were simply

‘Almighty G-d, please make the outcome of world events be most beneficial to the Jewish people and bring Mashiach NOW’.

Some people think that they shouldn’t use their ‘prayer allowance’ as they may deplete it and ask sparingly. 

Nothing could be  more ridiculous.

He, Hashem, can do anything. Don’t impose your own limitations to your relationship with him.

A year ago, a friend of mine came with his wife and their infant child from Israel to have an operation in Boston children’s hospital. Their Israeli health insurance agreed to pay for the operation which means that they had exhausted any options in Israel. It was such a complicated condition that needed the superior expertise of the Boston facility.

Upon arrival in the USA, they went immediately to pray to Hashem at the holy site of the Rebbe’s Ohel. The husband wrote a note asking for a successful operation. When the husband saw that his wife had written a note praying that there not be a need for an operation, he realized that her level of trust in G-d superseded his and he promptly discarded his note and co-singed his wife’s note.

Upon arrival at the Boston hospital, the doctors did some final pre-op testing. To their huge surprise the surgeon called the surgery off. The medical condition that had seemed irreparable without an intensive surgery had started to heal naturally. 

After reassessing the medical situation the operation was called off.

When the husband asked the doctor whether it was a miracle, the doctor said he is not an expert on miracles. He did confirm that he had never seen this kind of remarkable turnaround.

Don’t be scared to pray for what you REALLY want. 

And be smart and think about what you really OUGHT to want.

Someone once wrote to the Rebbe that he be freed of his community work as he was ageing and not feeling as healthy as before. 

The Rebbe responded: ‘I have never seen anything so strange and distorted. Instead of asking to be relieved of your duties you could have asked for a blessing to be health and vigorous’.

I go back to that story often. It speaks volumes about what a truly healthy perspective on life is. 

Imagine if the king grants you a wish and you ask to be first in line for the charity free food handout?

Instead of asking for the king to make you wealthy?

Don’t get stuck in a limited mindset when speaking to an unlimited G-d.

We are in a period in history where things are moving at dazzling speeds.

May we pray not just for the immediate relief of whatever is bothering us, let us pray for the ultimate. To witness the fruition of the dream we have waiting almost two thousand years for. 

The coming of Mashiach.

NOW.

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Yosef Kantor

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